The change to daylight savings has been rough, but thankfully spring is around the corner 🌸!! Anyone else feeling the urge to dive into spring cleaning???
I have! Recently, Jonah came in and said the fridge looked bare...that it looked worse than it did before I cleaned because most of the papers were gone. I totally get it. I explained that it gives us space for new things to hang on the fridge (see photo). And, it doesn’t make the things we took off less special. (Side note, it can be really hard to release things. Honoring the items we are letting go of can help with that process…more on that later!)
Continually creating space is important all year round, but why?
💪 Physically, if you are feeling that urge to organize, clean, renew and refresh around the house, follow it…it helps keep energy flowing! Cardio exercise helps rid the body of waste and creates neurochemicals that improve our mood and deal with stress. Breathwork moves energy and can reset your nervous system to keep it regulated so you feel calm and alert. This also helps our children feel calm and safe because they co-regulate with us.
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🧠 Creating space mentally helps us shift our thinking. When we can’t focus, get frustrated, or can’t solve a problem, taking a break and moving our body helps with cognitive flexibility or getting our brain “unstuck”. This is a strategy I use with my students and son (and one my son has reminded me to use). It’s particularly helpful for those that have a harder time with cognitive flexibility due to brain differences seen with TBI, ADHD, Autism, and Alzheimer’s. Doing things like washing the dishes or cleaning out the pantry are tasks that help shift the brain...think, “Wax on, wax off.” Initially, this can be hard because it is the opposite of "powering through”, but stepping away will help you move through it!
💖 Creating space for ourselves emotionally is essential. We‘ve got to give ourselves space to process emotion and tap into our intuition. Go ahead and have that good cry! Emotions are energy and energy needs to move. We gotta let it out! When we are stuck in busy mode, we can’t process emotion or dive into our own healing to see what is the root of the issue and know how to handle difficult situations from a calm and reflective state.
🌀 Energetically, creating space allows us to leave room for new gifts to flow into our life! This relates to our physical environment, thoughts, and emotions, too. You may have a vision or goal, but is there room for it to enter your life? Think about how cutting back a rosebush actually facilitates growth 🌱
The space is where the beauty awaits 💫 !
Life is full of unknowns, but the last year has been, well, unprecedented in this regard! So, something to think about as we gear up for the upcoming school year is how to make transitions easier for our kiddos. My son was virtual all year, so we are looking at a big change in our house and we haven't had much of a schedule😬!!!
Not everyone likes surprises and our kids feel empowered when they have a sense of control of their environment and lives (hint: so do we 😉!).
The neurodiverse kiddos I work with particularly tend to have difficulty with transitions, or shifting from one activity to another. And truly, many kids do, but there are several strategies to help kids transition successfully and facilitate cognitive flexibility as they grow.
Here's what you can do to prepare your kids:
💬 Let them know what’s expected
⚠️ Give them multiple warnings
👀 Make it visual
😌 Keep language simple
💖 Connection first/Honoring feelings
🐢 Slow down
The more you put this into practice, the more flexible kids will become, because they will feel safer and know what is expected in their everyday routines.
I dive into this in much greater detail in my Fearless & Free Parent Blueprint for Connection & Communication.